If your baby is in hospital

Baby sickness - is always a hard trial for family, and iffirst of all you should analyze your own emotions and
the matter concerns baby's hospitalization, then youforget about affirmation: "Hospital - pain, fear, danger".
can become panic-stricken only at the thought of theReplace it by "Hospital - help, relieve, recovery". You
fact that a baby will be estranged from his family,confidence and peace of mind will be passed to your
painful procedures expect him, and strangers willdaughter and son. Talk to your child about coming
surround him.hospitalization softly-softly. You can explain to
Because of hospitalization, a baby can get the wholeschoolchild, that sickness is not a catastrophe, but a
complex of serious psychological problems, caused bypeculiar exam for courage and firmness. Tell your child
sickness, isolation from home and conditions of hospital.that you will be thinking of him constantly and you're
Even adult person experiences stress, when he needsalways ready to help him. Think and discuss ways of
to apply to a doctor and moreover, while necessity ofyour contacts.
long staying in hospital. Needless to say about baby'sDuring separation avoid touching scenes, restrain
stress! Strange atmosphere, strange people, new,excessive emotions. Try to behave the way, so that a
constantly renewed children collective, forcedbaby would treat hospital not as punishment, but as a
separation from parents, fear of medical procedures -place, where he will be helped to recover sooner and
all this is quite enough for psychological discomfort.return to usual life. Form positive attitude, both to
And all these factors accompany symptoms ofimprovement of health and doctors' work. Explain your
disease.child an objective necessity of medical assistance.
However, you shouldn't dramatize situation. Of course,Don't persuade him that he is guilty of his sickness,
disease and necessity of hospitalization - aretrauma etc. himself. By doing this, you will increase
traumatizing factors. But for majority of children stayingsense of guilt and fear, which can cause undesirable
at hospital can become an important stage inpsychological complications. Of course, there're
formation of personality, bring lots of new impressionssituations, when it is important to discuss wrong
and knowledge, and give possibility to try themselves inbehavior of a child, which caused disease. But it is also
difficult life circumstances. This experience will bevery important that a result of your conversation
useful in further life of a child.would be not a sense of guilt, but understanding of
Processes of adaptation are individual for each child.cause and effect connection between wring behavior
This depends on many reasons: whether he hadand disease.
diseases earlier, stage of disease, is he staying atDiscuss schedule of visiting a child with relatives for
hospital for the first time or not, baby's age, whethersure, to avoid situations, when there're several visits
he was separated from his family before etc. Oftenper one day and no visits at all other day. This is very
everything passes quite smoothly, due to presence ofimportant, as excess of visitors can lead to emotional
inner reserves of a baby and correct behavior ofoverloads of a sick baby, and their absence - to
parents.increase of longing for home and relatives.
It's quite normal, if period of adaptation at hospital lastsTry not to hung up on topic of disease and treatment.
during 3-5 days. There're no reasons for anxiety, if aLife goes on. Ask your child about his new friends,
baby is rather careless during first days ofnews, what he does in spare time. Keep all your
hospitalization, asks to take him home, gets intodoubts concerning effectiveness of treatment inside of
contact with coevals not at once. Excess care andyou. Don't overload patient with your doubts and fears.
parental inclination for dramatizing situation can onlyAs medicine, which you doubt, will not help, as doctor,
damage. On the other hand, you shouldn't leave awhom you don't trust, won't be able to help. Try to
baby alone with his problems. He shouldn't feelavoid unpleasant topics, wait a little with information
abandoned and lonely.about bad news: sick baby need not to know that his
Quite often parents of sick children need morefavorite doggie eats bad or that cat ate hamster.
psychological help, then children themselves, as it isWhile talking to a baby, pay attention to positive
their correct behavior that influences a baby's moodmoments of staying at hospital. Think about things you
for recovery.can compliment him for: he bears procedures with
Here're several recommendations of experts. Neverfortitude, doesn't play about, could make friends with
frighten your baby with hospital. Don't create futuresomebody, drew a good picture etc.
problems, as there's hardly any baby, who hasn't beenUnfilled spare time increases feeling of loneliness,
at hospital for his life. During conversations with otherlonging for home. So you should definitely worry about
people avoid such phrases, like: "There doctors hardlythings your child should do. Bring him an interesting
understand something, I wish only they don't harm mybook, meccano, some new game, paints, crayons etc.
child" etc.Bring a toy for a small baby surely. You can tell that a
In case of baby hospitalization do your best to reducenew "friend" came to him specially to protect him at
stress and melancholy because of coming separationnights (if a baby is predisposed to night fears). It will be
from home and parents. Adults themselves should bevery good, if you bring him a toy bear, elephant, lion,
confident in future, calm and wise, so that a babytiger, i.e. any big animal, which will be able to personify
would treat staying at hospital calmly. If hospitalization ispower and protection (size of toy is not important).
planned and you have at least 1-2 days forAfter discharge talk to your baby about time he spent
preparation, involve baby in preparations, as if he wouldat hospital. Ask him about things he learned to do, what
be going to health centre or camp.he understood about himself and his relations with
Try to dispose your baby to optimism. Children haveother people, help him to realize value of experience
great intuition, and it's almost impossible to persuadehe gained.
them in things, which you don't believe yourself in. So,