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When I was told I was going to be a dad mywas always nine months ahead of me!
experiences up to that point were controllable, but lifeThe bag was ready to go for weeks and had all the
as we know it was soon to change. We can't alwaysrequirements - baby nappies, baby vests and usual
control it even though we want to, but baby comesparaphernalia were present that I would become
first. Being a parent is always spoken about from thefamiliar with over the next few months. I completely
mother's point of view, but men have anotherforgot that Liz myself and a child were going to come
experience in their parallel path.home in a few days, the figure three never entered
When our first child Zac came along it was a real eyemy head. It is a while ago now, ten years to be exact
opener. Our lives were turned on their heads. We didand I still seem to be playing catch up. I never seem to
not know what was what for at least eight weeks.be on the same page with the current set of guidelines
Gradually a pattern emerged and it became our dailywe are working with. Parenting is constantly changing.
routine and it has metamorphosed itself since. NowWe only put a guideline in place that we work to and it
with two children our life feels more complete. It is ahas to be changed within a week as the dynamics of
real way of life now and times like Christmas andthe situation are so diverse that something will affect
summer holidays have been transformed intothe original ruling.
something I would have dreaded years ago. But if IThings have changed so much we can't even turn to
could go back to the start would I do anythingour parents as the world in which they lived in does
different? I could say I would but if put in that place Inot exist anymore. Media today feed us with constant
would be naive as I was when I just became a parentimages, so much information is being streamed to us
originally. Hospital was a long way away, so I had tothat we cant sensor it in our homes. It all still boils down
drive calmly to ensure Mum to be and I would getto a common factor that if we have the opportunity to
there in one piece. When we were on our way in,remain at home and be focused on our child's
even though I was told our baby was due... I was notupbringing we can maintain the status quo.