Solving Sibling Rivalry

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Jealousy. Shouting. Pushing and common use of2.Encourage them to do things together like swimming,
‘That’s not fair!?’ phrase by any child.drawing and watch a favorite TV program they both
We all know the signs of Sibling Rivalry. It happensenjoy together.
almost in any family even for ourselves when we3.When you buy gifts for only one child (e.g. Birthday),
were young!explain to the other sibling that everyone get their turn.
It is a tough parenting subject that needs to be4.Allow each individual child’s privacy and space
monitored. More often than not, jealousy starts withat home. If older child needs to sleep, ensure younger
older child when a new one arrives. Older sibling doeschild doesn’t make much noise. Separate rooms
not get sole attention anymore and felt left out.and close doors if necessary.
If you are expecting a second child, the good news is5.Take turns in using home facilities like bathroom, TV
you can carry out gift exchange when they meet for(if they don’t watch the same program),
the first time at the hospital. Prepare gift beforehand.computer and toys. It is tough to monitor but you may
The exercise is more for the older sibling to feel joyencourage older sibling brush first in the morning and
easily accept a newborn at home. Explain to oldersecond at night.
sibling that you have to spend time caring for newborn6.Encourage each child to keep their own belongings at
but still love him or her VERY MUCH!own table or room. Then, urge the other child to ask
Thereafter, always encourage love, care and sharefor permission before taking and using.
between kids. It is easier said than done but it is not7.Let them hug and kiss each other after school and
them but YOU who will play the major role to avoidbefore bedtime.
sibling rivalry from starting altogether.8.Say good things like ‘Hey, your sister drew this for
However, if your kids are older and have been inyou, how sweet. Go and thank her by giving her a big
rivalry for some time, the situation can still be dealt with.hug!’
Although tougher.Having said and implementing all the above, sibling
What Should Parents Do To Avoid Sibling Rivalry:rivalry may still occur. After all, kids will be kids.
1.Encourage love, care and share between kids. Praise